4 things I learnt as a mum

Hello again!

WOW!! It has been a hot minute since I last put up a blog post!! So many things has happened since the last time I spoke to you all. My family has battled colds, our social schedule has been super busy and my daughter turned 4!

As hubby and I were making her birthday cake (which is so cute btw, check out my IG to see pics), we were reflecting on how fast four years have gone by so quickly. I vividly remember going into labour with her, giving birth to her and even the first few days of her life and now, here she is...a big 4 year old girl...sniff sniff...

So I thought it best to write about the 4 most important things I have learnt in the four years that I have been a mum.

1. A New Love

I heard lots of other mums tell me that I will feel a whole new kind of love. I would always nod and say "oh wow" but I never truly understood what they meant. That is, until I gave birth to my little girl. In an instant, I knew exactly what they were talking about. This new kind of love flooded over me. I just loved her the moment I saw her, it truly was love at first sight.

I wanted to protect her, provide for her, care for her, shelter her, everything! I just wanted to be with her, I couldn't stop looking at her.

When we took her home, we put her in her little cot and while my husband was cooking dinner, I was watching over her and just burst into tears. My poor husband didn't know what was going on and came rushing over to me to ask me why I was crying and I blubbered out "she's just so perfect".

When the due date for my son was nearing, I was unsure if I could love him as much as I do my daughter but sure enough, I felt a whole new love for him as well.

Prior to being a mum, I felt only one kind of love...love for my husband and love for my family. But there is something completely different about the love you have for your own child. It is hard for me to put it into words, but the only way I can describe it is that it is a new love, one that you have never experienced before, one that is so strong and powerful and one that never can be changed.

2. I Am Stronger Than I Thought

For those who know me know that I am a weakling haha. I can't lift heavy things and whenever I garden or do anything outdoorsy I hurt myself.

As any soon-to-be mum, I was pretty nervous about giving birth. I wasn't sure if I could handle the pain of labour and delivery.

When I was in active labour, I cried out for an epidural but by the time the anesthetist arrived, it was too late and my contractions were too close together. So, I was left with gas and air as my pain "medication". I did suck on that tube pretty hard when the contractions were strong and when the midwife had to turn baby around (that's another story) but I managed to labour and deliver my baby with no pain medication whatsoever. I surprised my mum (who was with me in the delivery room), my husband and even myself!

For someone who was a weakling and is pretty much a princess when it comes to anything active, I was so proud of myself for how strong I was and how I did it without any pain medication.

So for those soon-to-be mums out there, don't worry, your body will take over and you will be surprised at what you can do!

3. Mother's Intuition Is Legit!

Remember all those stories that we hear growing up about mother's intuition? Well, it's so true!

Sure there were many times when as a mum, I didn't know what to do so I called my mum for help and advice. But there are other times where I had a "gut feeling" about one or both of my children and I made sure that I got an outcome that I wanted in the end. Could be something as simple as trying a new way to get my kids to sleep or something more complex like a medical issue where I need second opinions, etc.

My "mother's intuition" is something that I don't really suppress. Whenever I get that "feeling" I act on it and most times, it works out for the better.

4. I Am a GOOD Mum

There are many many times where I feel as though I have failed as a mum. I wasn't watching my kids and one of them got hurt, I get so mad at them that I yell at them, I feed them too many unhealthy snacks...anything that you can think of, I have felt it.

However, I do know that I am a good mum. A great mum even.

You may be thinking "You just contradicted yourself."

Yeah, I probably did. But even though I feel like an absolute failure some days, I see that my kids are happy, healthy, active and full of life and I know that if I wasn't a good mum, they wouldn't be any of those things at all.

Being a "good mum" is very subjective, I know. But for me, I will tell you why I think I am a good mum...a great mum.

* I love them with all my being

* I am doing my best

Yes it is just two points but to me those are the only two points that matter to me and my kids.

So if you're a mum out there that is not sure if you are a good mum, I assure you that you feel/do both of the things above and that makes you a great mum.

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Talk soon xo

Love,

B

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